Wow.

The New Guy and I went out for the third time on Saturday evening. He came over to my place and we went to a bar around the corner for a couple of drinks. The discussion was quite lively and hilarious, with questions such as, "Who would you rather do, Brandon Walsh or Steve Sanders?" "Okay, who would you rather do, Brenda or Kelly?" There was talk of our college years and making fun of guys and girls in fraternities and sororities. Talk of music, politics, etc. He complimented me a few times, telling me that I look really cute when I blush and that I'm hot. During our talk about college, we started talking a bit about relationships and he said how he thinks there's something to be said for taking things slow and not having sex on the first date. I was like, "What, like in medieval times with courtship?" He said, "Something like that. There's just something to taking things slow."

After a couple of hours, we came back to my place to hang out for a little bit. New Guy was very nice to my cat, which says a lot about him in my book. If the guy just walks in, pets the cat and that's all, that says something. But, if the guy, walks in, pets the cat, tries to play with the cat or interact more with the cat than just a quick pet, that really says something. The New Guy was really taking time to try to get to know her, which says a lot, I think.

So, we watched a little bit of an episode of 90210 and were laughing hysterically about it and just chatting about stuff. We made tentative plans to hang out again during the week. Around 12:45am, it was time for him to get going, so I walked him down to his car. He gave me a big hug and then got into his car and left.

Seriously? No kiss again? What is going on here? Have I fallen into the "friend zone?" Does he just see me as a friend? I was so confused. All day Sunday and then again on Monday I couldn't stop thinking about what was going on. After talking to Best College Friend, she suggested that I just call him to chat to show that I was interested. She pointed out that he did say that he felt a bit like he was chasing me, so giving him a call would help make sure that he knew I was interested.

So I called The New Guy. He was happy to hear from me and said, "I was just thinking about you!" We talked for a while, but I still couldn't get a good read on him. He would say something like, "I hate to think of you all alone in your big loft by yourself." But, then every time I would throw out a flirtatious comment, he would just laugh and then change the subject. For instance, we were talking about how my bedroom is so nice and dark like a cave, he said that all I need is just a big, flat-screen tv. I replied that I have a flat-screen tv in there, it's just not that big. He was like, "You do?" I said, "Yeah, you just didn't see it because you were too scared to come all the way into my bedroom." He said, "Yeah, you might take advantage of me." I replied, "Would that be so bad?" He just laughed and then changed the subject. I was like, Okay...

Up until then, I wasn't going to say anything about how confused I was. Earlier in the conversation, we had made plans to go out on Friday or Saturday, so I was just going to see what happened then and if he still didn't make a move, then I was going to say something. But, something got into me, and I managed to communicate to him that I wasn't sure if he was interested in me or not and I was very confused. Needless to say, I was very, very happy with his response.

He said, "I think you're incredibly hot. I'm sure you get hit on numerous times everyday. I just didn't want to be one of those guys and I didn't want to be 'that' guy. I just really enjoy talking to you and the fact that you're so smart, we share pretty much the same viewpoint on things and on top of that you're beautiful, is amazing." Wow. I told him that he's definitely succeeded in setting himself apart from every other guy and that when it comes down to it, he's the one I'm talking to, so that should tell him something. He said that, "You're so hot that I just wasn't sure if you'd really be into someone like me." I replied, "Uh, seriously?! I find you really attractive. Not only that, but I think you're the total package - you're good-looking, funny, smart and talented. I always look forward to talking to you." So, yeah.

We now have plans to hang out tomorrow night. After laying everything out on the table last night, he busts out with, "There will definitely be some making out next time!" LOL! I did make it clear to him that I won't have sex unless I'm in a serious relationship, just so he knows. He assured me that he wasn't expecting anything like that yet. So, we'll see what happens tomorrow night!

WTH??

Okay, so just got back from my second date with the New Guy.

New Guy called today to see what I wanted to do when we hung out tonight. We chatted for about an hour about random stuff, as usual, and he made several comments about how he couldn't believe he had found a hot girl who's into the same stuff he's into. He also made a comment about how after his roommate moves out next month, I'll have to come over and play old-school Nintendo with him. (I had told him that I love playing old-school Nintendo.) Since the weather was gorgeous today, we decided to meet up at a cafe that has outdoor seating at 9pm.

So, I got there and we got to talking as usual. Yes, I still don't have much of a voice and now you can add a wonderful dry cough to the list of ailments. So, amongst the talking, there was a lot of coughing from me. The conversation was fantastic once again, no awkward silences, funny stories were told and we continued to learn more about each other. He's the type of guy who's very sincere- he's not going to ask you how you are just to ask you, he's going to ask you how you are if he really wants to know. I like that and can appreciate that. I'm like that too, and in my everyday working life in sales, it's rare. Anyways, at around 11pm, it was time to end the night since we both have to be up at a decent time to get to work. He asked if I wanted to get together again on Wednesday or Thursday to do something outside since the weather is going to be nice again and I told him I would love to.

Here is where the "what the hell?" from above comes in... Once again, he didn't kiss me. I don't get it! At least he hugged me this time. But still!! Is it because I'm still sick? If that's the case, tell me that! I know he's interested in me because he had already asked me out again for later in the week. I know he's not gay. Is he just moving REALLY slow? What do I do? What do I do if when we hang out again if he doesn't kiss me again? Do I say something? I'm not trying to sound conceited or anything, but I've never been in this situation before! I'm so confused!

Drama free!

Well, not much to update you all on. Without the drama The Swimmer brought, I've been laying low and enjoying less drama in my life for a bit!

Had a great time with my new friend (who I'll call Bra Girl because I met her while shopping for a new bra) over this past weekend. I hung out with her and a couple of her friends on Friday night and we just sat around and talked for a few hours. It was actually a lot of fun. She's been out of town all week, but we're going to try to get together this weekend or next week.

Tomorrow, I'm hanging out with Crazy Girl. She's getting her hair done, so I'm going to go sit with her while she gets that done and then we're going to go and get lunch together. I'm sure I'll be trying to flirt with the hot, straight assistant guy at the salon that hit on me when I got my hair cut last time. He mentioned hanging out together sometime, so maybe this time I'll have the guts to bring that up.

Valentine's Day was pretty low-key for me. No date or anything. It actually seemed like a regular day for me except for all of the Valentine's Day crap on tv. I got quite the surprising text message yesterday morning though. It was from my favorite band in the whole world's security guy. It seems that he has had a crush on Single Girl since he met me and has been working up the nerve to text me. Needless to say, I was extremely surprised. We texted back and forth for most of the day yesterday and for a bit today. Don't worry, I'm surely not jumping into anything, I'm definitely not ready for another serious relationship just yet. Too much going on in my life right now. I guess this isn't something he does often because he told me that the people on the tour bus he was on were giving him shit for texting me as much as he was. When he told me that, it occurred to me that those people just might be some of the band. Woah. Weird. Very strange. They shut up when they saw a picture of Single Girl.

Anyways, it's all fun for me, nothing serious, so nothing to worry about. Right now I'm looking for a local, hot, fun guy to have a nothing serious fling with until I move south. I think I need that now, especially after the drama that was The Swimmer. I don't think that will be too hard to find though!

Merry Christmas??

Okay everyone, I'm about to frickin lose it right now and rip someone's head off and tear it to pieces. I'm at my Mom's house in Florida and so is my brother, sister-in-law, nephews and stepfather. It is my stepfather's head that I want to rip off. Ready for why? He didn't get my Mom a Chanukah/Christmas present. SERIOUSLY?!?! Are you f'ing kidding me?! After not getting her a birthday present on her birthday, you have the balls to not get her a Chanukah/Christmas present?! After she does everything for you and gets you everything you want, you don't get her ANYTHING?!

He wanted a freaking Rolex for Christmas, what does he get? A Rolex. I told her she better take that watch back and use the money to get herself the Chanel bag she's been slobbering over and put the rest in HER bank account. She never buys herself ANYTHING. He's working overseas and spending money left and right and she is so worried about saving money that she sits in the dark at night to save money on electricity and he has the f**king balls to not buy her ANYTHING?!

You just don't know how livid I am right now. I can't even look at him right now. As soon as my brother and his family leaves, I'm saying something to my stepfather. I don't care if it's not my place. I even told him last week when he asked what he should get her that I wasn't sure, but I'm sure if he got her a gift card to Saks or Nordstrom he couldn't go wrong. And that I would be more than happy to go there and get the gift cards for him since there isn't one near where they live that he could secretly run to.

What an a**hole. An ungrateful, immature, stupid a**hole.